Sometimes Change Is Inescapable
Sometimes change is inescapable
Published on: 7th March 2020
By Tracee Cossey
BUTTERFLIES CANCER SUPPORT GROUP NEWSLETTER
Saturday, 7th March 2020
*We meet every Wednesday at Dorchester Community Church, (next to the new Damers School, by the Great Field in Poundbury), Liscombe Street, Poundbury, Dorchester, Dorset, DT1 3DF: from 2-4pm.
So, this newsletter is a little late ???? – I do get there in the end! New job is going okay though…I’m just preparing to head off to North Devon for the weekend for an 85th birthday – and the little one is ready for some North Devonshire seaside too. She’s also looking forward to Easter hols as we’re having some much needed ‘friendtime’ in my former hometown in Bedfordshire, plus a trip to London (she loves train journeys!) – we’re considering the London Eye at the moment as I got some tickets for 50 per cent off.
Butterflies, as always, welcomes new visitors – but a special goodbye to one of our members, Joan, who has moved out of Dorchester to pastures new. I had the privilege of taking her to her new home and watching her settle in and it was great to see how welcoming her new clan are. Nearly as soon as she stepped through the threshold a cup of tea was at the ready. I really liked her new hometown and we are already planning another road trip in the summer.
Two of our regular scheduled speakers, Sarah Cooper, creative writing expert, and Mary Tassell, the herbalist, will be back during April. Sarah is booked in for Wednesday, 1st April and Mary is booked in for Wednesday, 15th April.
Tel: 07591 100672/07766 576639
At each meeting we always start with a nice chat and catch-up, along with tea/coffee and some lovely biscuits. At most of our meetings we either have one or two speakers (on a whole range of subjects, not always cancer related) or an activity of some sort such as Creative Writing.
FREE THERAPIES AT EVERY MEETING
Aromatherapy and Reflexology - unavailable until July 22nd, (we are currently trying to source someone else)
Tracee Cossey attends weekly to give massage and reflexology to members. She has worked in a chemo unit in Bedfordshire for three years and has a degree in Complementary Therapies. You can see her website here: http://www.ametrineholistics.net – to book on for the day, there is a first-come, first served basis sheet on the table where we meet where you can sign to say what you’d like.
We have a trained counsellor who joins us, who comes to Butterflies on a Wednesday afternoon. Sessions are 1hr and usually last for at least 6 weeks. Lynne O’Brien is charging a reduced rate of £25p.h and funding is available if you need help meeting the cost - please speak to Rosa or Dick. To book a session, ring Lynne 07580 092388 You can view her website at: http://www.dragonfly-counselling.co.uk/
Herbalist Mary Tassell attends regularly to do 1:1 consultations for specific queries.
Mary has been working as a qualified herbalist for 23 years and is experienced in working with cancer patients.
For more information please visit Mary’s website at: http://www.tassell.net/
Julia and Roy from About Face regularly attend our meetings to support people with head and neck cancer.
Have a look at the books in our library, which are held on the tables in the Community Church, they will be put out for us every week to view. They are free for anyone to borrow but please let me know so I can mark it as out on loan. We aim to provide as many books as possible covering the wide spectrum of cancer, from Macmillan information booklets, self-help books and nutrition, to “my story” etc. If you’ve got a book you’d like to donate to our library then please feel free – we’d greatly appreciate it.
Remember, as always, you're welcome to come and go as you wish and you don't have to join in any of the activities if they don't interest you. You may just want to come for a chat or one of our therapies. You may want to bring a friend or member of the family with you.
Wednesday, 11th March 2020 - – chat, catch-up and activities session
Will be advertised in next newsletter. Working on booking in some new speakers!
Do feel free to visit our website: www.butterfliescancersupport.co.uk
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About Face run a monthly support group. Their next meeting will be held on:
Thursday, 2nd April 2020
At 7pm until 9pm
(arriving from 6.45 onwards)
In the downstairs sitting room
“The support group meetings will be held on the FIRST THURSDAY OF THE MONTH at the About Face house. Initially the group will be led by Muriel Hall, Ann Copland and Shaun Wright. We want to use the downstairs lounge and kitchen as we are aware the stairs can be problematic for some.
Please can you let Jane know if you are likely to attend by return email or phone. Email Jane: firstname.lastname@example.org or you can text/ring her mobile on 07966 905595.
*For more information on local events, please see the end of the newsletter.
OTHER USEFUL INFORMATION AND SUPPORT:
Carers’ lead at RMHC (Royal Manor Health Care), Portland A new carers’ lead for cancer support is available at RMHC Portland. The lead, Sheri Smith, is introduced to carers who are caring for relatives/loved ones. They do not have to live with them but if they are caring for their needs on a regular basis, they can register with Royal Manor Health Care, so they can receive support. Also, they can be given a signed consent to access medical records if necessary. RMHC then registers them with Social Services if they have no online facility.
Social Services contact carers to assess their needs and requirements. They are then offered support to both carer and patient, and give advice on other services available, including a local Carers group that meet once a month. This is not something carers HAVE to take up but its just nice to know it’s there if they need it. There are also Carer Packs at both RMHC’s surgeries with the information if referred to Sheri. She will then make contact and introduce herself.
SCARS - Stalbridge Cancer & Recovery Support meets last Friday of the month 2-4pm at The Hub, Station Road, Stalbridge. www.scarscancersupport.co.uk Email: email@example.com Tracy White 01963 548342. They also operate a Closed Facebook Page called SCARS. Tracy says that if anyone wishes to join they would be welcome. It is a confidential, member’s only group and she will authorise you to be added.
The Grove Hotel in Bournemouth If you, or anyone you know, would like a break in a safe environment with medical staff on hand and near the sea then please tell them about this brilliant hotel. Rosa has stayed there a couple of times and loved it! www.thegrovebournemouth.co.uk
Shine – cancer support for younger adults
Shine exists exclusively to support adults in their 20s, 30s and 40s who have experienced a cancer diagnosis. There is never a good time to have cancer, but we know that younger adults face different issues than their older or younger counterparts - and that many of these are not dealt with by traditional cancer support charities and services. www.shinecancersupport.org
There is a new way to contact the emergency services, in addition to calling them. It is now possible to send a text message to 999 in case of an emergency. This service can be particularly useful for when mobile signal is too poor to support a phone call or if the situation means you're unable to speak to an operator. However, in order to be able to use this service you need to register your mobile phone. To do this online, go to:
OR you can register using SMS
To register using SMS text messages you must:
1. Send the word 'register' in an SMS message to 999
2. You will then receive SMS messages about the service
3. When you have read these SMS messages reply by sending 'yes' in an SMS message to 999
4. You will receive a SMS message telling you that your mobile phone is registered or if there is a problem with your registration
Red Cross SUPPORT AT HOME service
Have you heard of this? They provide help for people coming out of hospital which could well be one of us or someone we know.http://www.redcross.org.uk/What-we-do/Health-and-social-care/Independent-living/Support-at-home
Live Better With Cancer is a very useful website with lots of products and ideas to make your life easier livebetterwith.com/
http://www.creativity4wellbeing.com is a free art resource site “to encourage creativity in the community and purposeful activity for health and wellbeing”.
The Macmillan Citizens Advice Service provides advice on Welfare Benefit, Debt, Housing & Employment issues for people in Dorset affected by cancer. They offer advice for people affected by Cancer in Dorset. The service can provide a home visiting service and has part time advisers based in the Citizens Advice Bureaux in Dorchester, Sherborne, Weymouth & Wimborne. They also hold a drop in outreach service at Dorset County Hospital Williams Avenue Dorchester DT1 2JY on a Wednesday morning between 10 -12.
Telephone Mags on 08454 9000 42 Mon-Fri 10 – 3
Penny Brohn UK run a range of courses, groups and individual therapies designed to help you feel better and live better with cancer, its treatments and side effects.
Whether it’s learning about healthy food, coping with treatment side effects, or getting to grips with the emotional impact of cancer, we can help you find what you need right now. https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk/
BLEEPS AT FORTUNESWELL OUTPATIENTS DCH. Did you know that bleeps are now available to borrow at reception if you have to wait for test results, meds etc so you can go and have a break, relax at the coffee bar or restaurant? Do ask if this would help you and your family.
Something different: SOUTH WEST FISHING FOR LIFE (SWFFL) is an organisation which provides fly fishing sessions for women with breast cancer. The Dorset group meets at The Wrackleford Estate fishery Dorchester, Dorset, DT2 9SN by kind permission of Mr and Mrs Pope. If you would like to go along for a chat and to see what they have to offer ring Gillian, secretary, 01398 371244 or Lead coach Clive 01202 699864.
A new SWFFL group has started - the Tolpuddle group who meet the 1st Thursday of the month at Tolpuddle, Dorchester, Dorset DT2 7H. If you would like to go along and meet the group please contact Lead coach Sallyfirstname.lastname@example.org, Peteremail@example.com, or ring Gillian 01398 371244
Other local cross-cancer support groups with whom we have close links:
Purbeck Workshop – FREE creative escapes for those touched by cancer – meets most weekdays in Wool. Lots of different creative activities to try with new ones added each month. To sign up for their monthly newsletter or for further details:www.purbeckworkshop.org
C-Siders, Weymouth & Portland cancer support group, meets on 1st and 3rd Monday of the month, 7.30-9pm at the Wyke Smugglers Pub, Portland Road, Weymouth. Have a look on their website for a list of activities. Contact: Peter Meacham
The Living Tree meets every Friday at the Friends House in Bridport at 2pm. They have far too many FREE activities for me to list, so please see their website:
Forum Otters Cancer Support meets every second Thursday of the month from 2-4pm in the Woodhouse Memorial Gardens Pavilion in Blandford Forum, they can be contacted on 07561 114644.
Tessa Murphy from Brain Tumour Support has sent through some useful information regarding disabled passes. (The first one looks good for not always having to carry proof of benefits receipt to confirm disability).
The Anti-cancer Club: It’s about Life. – You can sign up to the weekly newsletter here (or for more info):
Dorset Cancer Care Foundation
Dorset Cancer Care Foundation (tel: 07593 890879, email firstname.lastname@example.org) is helpful for anyone struggling financially due to cancer, they may be able to provide financial assistance.
Types of support DCCF provide include:
Transport and parking costs for treatment
Overnight accommodation during treatment
Household modifications (needed due to illness)
Days out for patients and their families
Domestic help (needed due to illness)
Respite holidays for patients
Specialist buggy or a child with cancer
Cost of child care whilst at appointments
Wigs and prosthetics
Other financial hardships.
DCCF also support Dorset-based cancer organisations for small research projects, local hospice meters and chairs, surgical bras for a hospice etc
For more details their website is http://www.dccf.co.uk
Information below supplied by Emma Scott, Community Development Officer, Dorchester Town Council.
Events & Activities
Friends of Borough Gardens - 11 March
Open invitation from the Friends of the Borough Gardens, Dorchester, to come and hear Nigel Hewish, the Head Gardener of Kingston Maurward, talk about Kingston Maurward Gardens – one of our loveliest local assets. Also ask a few questions of the Head Gardener of Dorchester’s own ‘lovely asset’, the Borough Gardens (after a short AGM).
Wednesday 11 March, the Borough Gardens House, at 6.30. Free entry, refreshments.
Butterflies Cancer Support – 14 March
Butterflies Cancer Support Group has a street stall on Saturday, 14 March 2020, at the United Church in South Street, Dorchester.
Please, if you are able, they would like some contributions for memorabilia to sell. If you are good at making cards, crocheting, or any other crafts, that would be great. Just message them on email@example.com and they will arrange collection/delivery. Thanks in advance if you can help!
Dorchester Science Festival - 15 March (see attached programme)
The Family Science Fair is just around the corner to brighten up your Sunday with some fantastic hands-on learning and experiments.
Taking place at the Corn Exchange on the 15 March from 1pm-5pm, this free event is sure to bring out the Marie Curie or the Isaac Newton in you! There will be a great range of activities, hosted by local scientists, allowing you to try all sorts of investigations – use virtual reality to show you the latest research in crowd perception, discover the invisible world of microbes, explore physics through music – playing a vegetable piano, and much more.
Please note, that due to the popularity of this event, admittance to the Family Science Fair this year will be by ticket only.
Tickets are FREE (on a first come first served basis) and can be obtained by going to the Dorchester Tourist Information Centre in person to collect (this is located in the Dorchester Library, Charles Street, DT1 1EE).
This year in addition to the Family Science Fair, there are a range of brilliant activities run by partners including Thomas Hardye School, Dorchester Library and Waterstones. For the full programme and any updates, pick up a flyer or check out the Facebook page www.facebook.com/DorchesterScienceFestival
Dorchester Lions Fun Swim - 14 & 15 March
The Dorchester & District Lions family-inclusive Fun Swim of 2020 will held on the weekend of 14 & 15 March, and the club are now inviting adults and children to sign up and take part. The Lions Fun Swim is an event for the whole family, all ages and all abilities. It gives everyone a chance to 'make a splash' and raise money for their favourite cause or charity and have fun at the same time! What better way for a family to help their favourite charity than by splashing about in a pool!
The two day event takes place on Saturday afternoon and Sunday morning at the 1610 Sports Centre in Coburg Road, Dorchester.
In addition to the popular timed 55 minute team relays in the main pool, the Fun Swim is offering a host of other fun activities and small pool challenges for children and adults of all ages and abilities. The infamous Inflatable Challenge is back in the main pool, there are sessions of Aquafit, Kid's Swim and Aqua Glide challenges together with the ever-popular Aquaboats. This year the Fun Swim includes a new event in the main pool - the Aqua Board Challenge!
GO Girls Events - 20 & 24 March
Please see 2 posters attached for a Charity Cabaret Night 20 March and the South West Coastal Path Challenge – starting 24 March.
Tickets for the Cabaret Night can be booked online at https://billetto.co.uk/e/charity-cabaret-night-tickets-407973/?fbclid=IwAR33uu4vUESRr9WjG_XkWp00-cENNvLN9fqG_QgYu0nM-Af9sDIbKZ9htKM
Spinning the Moon – 6 to 18 April
The Dorchester Community Play will be performed at the Thomas Hardye School from Monday 6th April to Sunday 18th April. You are able to get tickets from Dorchester Arts or the Dorchester Tourist Information Centre. Please see the attached poster for the full details.
Earth Day - 25 April
The Plastic Free Dorchester Group are organising an event to celebrate the 50th anniversary of Earth Day, taking place on Saturday the 25 April from
11am-4pm at Woodlands Crescent in Poundbury. The day is about inspiring, sharing ideas and supporting others to make changes in their lives, as well as showcasing some of the environmentally friendly organisations that people can get involved in to make a difference. There will be the opportunity to handle exotic bugs, learn bush-craft skills, hear from some inspiring speakers, and enjoy some delicious food. In addition, the UK’s most environmentally friendly junk percussionists, Weapons of Sound, will be on hand with some great musical entertainment. The event is free to attend and will be family friendly, with all invited to attend and be part of the environmental and climate conversation.
Churches Together Ecology Group Spring Event: The Living Soil - 25 April
Why Soil? It is not the first environmental issue on people’s minds but it is crucially important. Soil is the main way carbon is stored on the planet (85%!) and key to water quality, food production, biodiversity, flood prevention etc. A third of the Earth's soil is acutely degraded and it is increasingly mentioned as something we must improve. As individuals, how we manage the bits of earth that we are responsible for whether an allotment, a back garden or huge fields and how we use our weight as consumers to reward sustainable agriculture does matter.
Find out more about this precious resource at an event being held at the United Church, South St, Dorchester on 25 April from 10.30am-1pm
Advice, Information and Consultations
Voluntary & Community Sector Grants Review Consultation
Please complete on behalf of groups or as a local resident.
Follow the link below which will take you to the digital version of the Voluntary Community Sector Grants Review consultation information and survey which is now open for comment. The consultation process will close on the 11 March 2020. This is a real chance to put your views about how you think Dorset Council will manage their funding for the sector after the 2020-21 and also a chance to comment on the possible criteria for the new grants programmes, so every reply is very important in influencing the decision makers. https://www.dorsetcouncil.gov.uk/your-council/consultations/consultation.aspx?consult=159a88ce-e8e9-430d-9348-d5e229212c37
Children and Young People – their views on Primary Care Services
The NHS wants to make primary care services more youth-friendly and accessible to children and young people. To help us do this we want to hear from children and young people about their experiences. Please do get involved by taking our survey – very short deadline 21 February.
Free Children’s Coats
The Dorchester Family Partnership Zone (DFPZ) have collected a great selection of children’s coats, from toddler sizes up to age 12/13. They are looking to distribute these locally to any families who might be struggling to afford a new coat for their children. The coats are in great condition with many labelled brands. If you would like a coat, please contact the DFPZ zone leader Louisa Payne at firstname.lastname@example.org to organise going to look at them/collect one.
Dorset Community Action – Village Hall Census
Please see the attached email for information on the census of Rural England’s Village and Community Halls that is launching this week.
Funding and Grants
Dorchester Market Car Boot Fund 2020
The Dorchester Market Car Boot Fund 2020 is currently open for applications and closes on the 30th April, decisions will be made and groups will be notified by the end of July and successful applicants will be invited to a celebration event in September to share news about their projects.
An application form and additional guidance can be found on the Dorset Council website at https://www.dorsetcouncil.gov.uk/your-community/support-for-voluntary-and-community-organisations/funding/dorchester-market-car-boot-fund.aspx or alternatively organisations can contact the Community Planning & Development Team at email@example.com
Tracee Cossey: 7th Mar 2020 00:37:00