Butterflies Newsletter 22nd March 2020

Published on: 22nd March 2020
By Tracee Cossey

Sunday, 22nd March 2020

*We meet every Wednesday at Dorchester Community Church, (next to the new Damers School, by the Great Field in Poundbury), Liscombe Street, Poundbury, Dorchester, Dorset, DT1 3DF: from 2-4pm.

Hello Everyone,

Despite our wishes to keep meetings open, the church has closed in response to the government and church administration closing down as places of mass gatherings, which means Butterflies cannot currently continue. It seems wise in these difficult times, and it is important to be prudent with our health and we’d just like to keep the (metaphorical) doors open with our Buddy List which was recently sent out.

The Buddy List is published here below again is for people who feel vulnerable and want to talk to someone during the health and flu crisis.

Do stay safe and well and try to remain positive. I’ve been growing things in my windowsill. I’ve never been interested in gardening but my buds are coming along nicely. I’ve got cabbage, carrots, cucumber - amongst others -  and all sorts are beginning to bud. Going to go get some more, my daughter is loving the planting phase and the time is currently ripe, it seems. Most seeds want planting around March (certainly the ones I have bought). I never knew it was so easy to get them to actually grow, but my next phase is the steep learning curve about slugs and insects and actually replanting in the ground. My friend, a keen gardener, gets up in the middle of the night to check for slugs, according to his wife!

It’s looking as if I may be classed as a keyworker in my new role so could well be working if there is a shutdown period and over Easter too, as schools may remain open to account for keyworker’s shifts etc. If this is the case, I’ve added my number at the bottom of the buddy list for you, because I may well be able to travel if there is a lockdown and get supplies for people. Try not to overload me though, please! ????


I’m going to try to keep the newsletter going, but it will not be very busy about what’s doing – I’ll try and share some top tips for Coronavirus Hacks with you and so on. Just a quick mention about a new group advertised on our Facebook page with the link. Our regular Creative Writing speaker/tutor Sarah Cooper has set up a Writing for Wellness group which you can join. You can post her your writing online and get ideas for writing. If you search for ‘Writing for Wellness’ in the search bar on Facebook you should find it, or you can follow the link as I said.

One Coronavirus hack I’d like to share right now is lemons. They are really good for clearing the airways if drank with a cup of boiling water. I bought some recently and they are great as an astringent too. Also, as an antiviral. Lemons can also be used to clean things, along with vinegar (to stop the vinegar smell!) If you are interested in another really great hack (I’ve tried myself), eucalyptus oil with lemon is great for cleansing the sinuses. You only need a couple of drops in a bowl of steaming water, and breathe in the steam for a couple of minutes. Enjoy your lemoning! (I’ve kept the seeds back too….)

Rosa Adams 07737 234056 (Group Lead)

Dick Foad 07792 637935 (Chairman)

Roy Dean 07788 892908 - 01305 853442

Sandra Baldock 07943 937402 - 01305 757164

Stephen Weldon 07749 646852

Kris Jellett 07871 263070

Viv Steer 07742 877559 - 01305 262715

Marianne Currie 07854 841516

Lynton Burse 07890 728556

Shaun Wright 07792 471666

Tracee Cossey 07591 110672 (please try not to use other number 07766 576639 atm, it is working but plugged in all the time as every time I take it out of the mains, it boots off! I really must get it fixed!!)

Everyone take care and hope you stay well.

Best wishes,

Email: traceecossey@gmail.com
Tel: 07591 100672

Our Meetings

***Our meetings are temporarily suspended***

At each meeting we always start with a nice chat and catch-up, along with tea/coffee and some lovely biscuits. At most of our meetings we either have one or two speakers (on a whole range of subjects, not always cancer related) or an activity of some sort such as Creative Writing.


  • Aromatherapy and Reflexology with Tracee – every Wednesday of the month – (currently unavailable until July 22nd)
  • Regular 1-1 consultations with Mary Tassell, herbalist
  • Regular 1-1 meetings with counsellor Lynne O’Brien

Aromatherapy and Reflexology - unavailable until July 22nd, (we are currently trying to source someone else)

Tracee Cossey attends weekly to give massage and reflexology to members. She has worked in a chemo unit in Bedfordshire for three years and has a degree in Complementary Therapies. You can see her website here: http://www.ametrineholistics.net – to book on for the day, there is a first-come, first served basis sheet on the table where we meet where you can sign to say what you’d like.


We have a trained counsellor who joins us, who comes to Butterflies on a Wednesday afternoon. Sessions are 1hr and usually last for at least 6 weeks. Lynne O’Brien is charging a reduced rate of £25p.h and funding is available if you need help meeting the cost - please speak to Rosa or Dick. To book a session, ring Lynne 07580 092388 You can view her website at: http://www.dragonfly-counselling.co.uk/


Herbalist Mary Tassell attends regularly to do 1:1 consultations for specific queries.

Mary has been working as a qualified herbalist for 23 years and is experienced in working with cancer patients.
For more information please visit Mary’s website at: http://www.tassell.net/

Julia and Roy from About Face regularly attend our meetings to support people with head and neck cancer.

Have a look at the books in our library, which are held on the tables in the Community Church, they will be put out for us every week to view. They are free for anyone to borrow but please let me know so I can mark it as out on loan. We aim to provide as many books as possible covering the wide spectrum of cancer, from Macmillan information booklets, self-help books and nutrition, to “my story” etc. If you’ve got a book you’d like to donate to our library then please feel free – we’d greatly appreciate it.

Remember, as always, you're welcome to come and go as you wish and you don't have to join in any of the activities if they don't interest you. You may just want to come for a chat or one of our therapies. You may want to bring a friend or member of the family with you.

Next Meeting:

Until further notice ­- – We will let you know as soon as we can.

Successive Meetings

We will let you know as soon as we can.

Do feel free to visit our website: www.butterfliescancersupport.co.uk

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About Face run a monthly support group. Their next meeting will be held on:

Thursday, 2nd April 2020 (***likely cancelled, please contact them for info)

At 7pm until 9pm

(arriving from 6.45 onwards)

In the downstairs sitting room

“The support group meetings will be held on the FIRST THURSDAY OF THE MONTH at the About Face house. Initially the group will be led by Muriel Hall, Ann Copland and Shaun Wright. We want to use the downstairs lounge and kitchen as we are aware the stairs can be problematic for some.

Please can you let Jane know if you are likely to attend by return email or phone. Email Jane: contact@about-face.info or you can text/ring her mobile on 07966 905595.

*For more information on local events, please see the end of the newsletter.


Carers’ lead at RMHC (Royal Manor Health Care), Portland A new carers’ lead for cancer support is available at RMHC Portland. The lead, Sheri Smith, is introduced to carers who are caring for relatives/loved ones. They do not have to live with them but if they are caring for their needs on a regular basis, they can register with Royal Manor Health Care, so they can receive support. Also, they can be given a signed consent to access medical records if necessary. RMHC then registers them with Social Services if they have no online facility.

Social Services contact carers to assess their needs and requirements. They are then offered support to both carer and patient, and give advice on other services available, including a local Carers group that meet once a month. This is not something carers HAVE to take up but its just nice to know it’s there if they need it. There are also Carer Packs at both RMHC’s surgeries with the information if referred to Sheri. She will then make contact and introduce herself.

SCARS - Stalbridge Cancer & Recovery Support meets last Friday of the month 2-4pm at The Hub, Station Road, Stalbridge. www.scarscancersupport.co.uk Email: contact.scars@gmail.com Tracy White 01963 548342. They also operate a Closed Facebook Page called SCARS. Tracy says that if anyone wishes to join they would be welcome. It is a confidential, member’s only group and she will authorise you to be added.

The Grove Hotel in Bournemouth If you, or anyone you know, would like a break in a safe environment with medical staff on hand and near the sea then please tell them about this brilliant hotel. Rosa has stayed there a couple of times and loved it! www.thegrovebournemouth.co.uk

Shine – cancer support for younger adults

Shine exists exclusively to support adults in their 20s, 30s and 40s who have experienced a cancer diagnosis. There is never a good time to have cancer, but we know that younger adults face different issues than their older or younger counterparts - and that many of these are not dealt with by traditional cancer support charities and services. www.shinecancersupport.org

There is a new way to contact the emergency services, in addition to calling them. It is now possible to send a text message to 999 in case of an emergency. This service can be particularly useful for when mobile signal is too poor to support a phone call or if the situation means you're unable to speak to an operator. However, in order to be able to use this service you need to register your mobile phone. To do this online, go to:


OR you can register using SMS

To register using SMS text messages you must:

1. Send the word 'register' in an SMS message to 999

2. You will then receive SMS messages about the service

3. When you have read these SMS messages reply by sending 'yes' in an SMS message to 999

4. You will receive a SMS message telling you that your mobile phone is registered or if there is a problem with your registration

Red Cross SUPPORT AT HOME service

Have you heard of this? They provide help for people coming out of hospital which could well be one of us or someone we know.http://www.redcross.org.uk/What-we-do/Health-and-social-care/Independent-living/Support-at-home

Live Better With Cancer is a very useful website with lots of products and ideas to make your life easier livebetterwith.com/

http://www.creativity4wellbeing.com is a free art resource site “to encourage creativity in the community and purposeful activity for health and wellbeing”.

The Macmillan Citizens Advice Service provides advice on Welfare Benefit, Debt, Housing & Employment issues for people in Dorset affected by cancer. They offer advice for people affected by Cancer in Dorset. The service can provide a home visiting service and has part time advisers based in the Citizens Advice Bureaux in Dorchester, Sherborne, Weymouth & Wimborne. They also hold a drop in outreach service at Dorset County Hospital Williams Avenue Dorchester DT1 2JY on a Wednesday morning between 10 -12.

Telephone Mags on 08454 9000 42 Mon-Fri 10 – 3

Email: macmillan@dorchester.cabnet.org.uk

Penny Brohn UK run a range of courses, groups and individual therapies designed to help you feel better and live better with cancer, its treatments and side effects.

Whether it’s learning about healthy food, coping with treatment side effects, or getting to grips with the emotional impact of cancer, we can help you find what you need right now. https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk/

BLEEPS AT FORTUNESWELL OUTPATIENTS DCH. Did you know that bleeps are now available to borrow at reception if you have to wait for test results, meds etc so you can go and have a break, relax at the coffee bar or restaurant? Do ask if this would help you and your family.

Something different: SOUTH WEST FISHING FOR LIFE (SWFFL) is an organisation which provides fly fishing sessions for women with breast cancer. The Dorset group meets at The Wrackleford Estate fishery Dorchester, Dorset, DT2 9SN by kind permission of Mr and Mrs Pope. If you would like to go along for a chat and to see what they have to offer ring Gillian, secretary, 01398 371244 or Lead coach Clive 01202 699864.
A new SWFFL group has started - the Tolpuddle group who meet the 1st Thursday of the month at Tolpuddle, Dorchester, Dorset DT2 7H. If you would like to go along and meet the group please contact Lead coach Sally-pizii@btinternet.com, Peter-mullinsp44@gmail.com, or ring Gillian 01398 371244

Other local cross-cancer support groups with whom we have close links:

Purbeck Workshop – FREE creative escapes for those touched by cancer – meets most weekdays in Wool. Lots of different creative activities to try with new ones added each month. To sign up for their monthly newsletter or for further details:www.purbeckworkshop.org

C-Siders, Weymouth & Portland cancer support group, meets on 1st and 3rd Monday of the month, 7.30-9pm at the Wyke Smugglers Pub, Portland Road, Weymouth. Have a look on their website for a list of activities. Contact: Peter Meacham


The Living Tree meets every Friday at the Friends House in Bridport at 2pm. They have far too many FREE activities for me to list, so please see their website:


Forum Otters Cancer Support meets every second Thursday of the month from 2-4pm in the Woodhouse Memorial Gardens Pavilion in Blandford Forum, they can be contacted on 07561 114644.

Tessa Murphy from Brain Tumour Support has sent through some useful information regarding disabled passes. (The first one looks good for not always having to carry proof of benefits receipt to confirm disability).

  • National Disabled Identification Card:


  • Merlin Pass – Disabled persons


  • And finally, a similar idea for cinemas:


The Anti-cancer Club: It’s about Life. – You can sign up to the weekly newsletter here (or for more info):


Dorset Cancer Care Foundation
Dorset Cancer Care Foundation (tel: 07593 890879, email info@dccf.co.uk) is helpful for anyone struggling financially due to cancer, they may be able to provide financial assistance.

Types of support DCCF provide include:

Transport and parking costs for treatment
Overnight accommodation during treatment
Household modifications (needed due to illness)
Days out for patients and their families
Domestic help (needed due to illness)
Respite holidays for patients
Specialist buggy or a child with cancer
Cost of child care whilst at appointments
Wigs and prosthetics
Other financial hardships.

DCCF also support Dorset-based cancer organisations for small research projects, local hospice meters and chairs, surgical bras for a hospice etc

For more details their website is http://www.dccf.co.uk

Information below supplied by Emma Scott, Community Development Officer, Dorchester Town Council.

Events & Activities 

***Please be aware these events below are likely to be cancelled in line with current guidance from the government.   

GO Girls Events - 20 & 24 March

Please see 2 posters attached for a Charity Cabaret Night 20 March and the South West Coastal Path Challenge – starting 24 March.

Tickets for the Cabaret Night can be booked online at https://billetto.co.uk/e/charity-cabaret-night-tickets-407973/?fbclid=IwAR33uu4vUESRr9WjG_XkWp00-cENNvLN9fqG_QgYu0nM-Af9sDIbKZ9htKM

Spinning the Moon – 6 to 18 April

The Dorchester Community Play will be performed at the Thomas Hardye School from Monday 6th April to Sunday 18th April. You are able to get tickets from Dorchester Arts or the Dorchester Tourist Information Centre. Please see the attached poster for the full details.

Earth Day - 25 April

The Plastic Free Dorchester Group are organising an event to celebrate the 50th anniversary of Earth Day, taking place on Saturday the 25 April from

11am-4pm at Woodlands Crescent in Poundbury. The day is about inspiring, sharing ideas and supporting others to make changes in their lives, as well as showcasing some of the environmentally friendly organisations that people can get involved in to make a difference. There will be the opportunity to handle exotic bugs, learn bush-craft skills, hear from some inspiring speakers, and enjoy some delicious food. In addition, the UK’s most environmentally friendly junk percussionists, Weapons of Sound, will be on hand with some great musical entertainment. The event is free to attend and will be family friendly, with all invited to attend and be part of the environmental and climate conversation.

Churches Together Ecology Group Spring Event: The Living Soil - 25 April

Why Soil? It is not the first environmental issue on people’s minds but it is crucially important. Soil is the main way carbon is stored on the planet (85%!) and key to water quality, food production, biodiversity, flood prevention etc. A third of the Earth's soil is acutely degraded and it is increasingly mentioned as something we must improve. As individuals, how we manage the bits of earth that  we are responsible for  whether an allotment, a back garden or huge fields and how we use our weight as consumers to reward sustainable agriculture does matter.  

Find out more about this precious resource at an event being held at the United Church, South St, Dorchester on 25 April from 10.30am-1pm

Advice, Information and Consultations

Free Children’s Coats

The Dorchester Family Partnership Zone (DFPZ) have collected a great selection of children’s coats, from toddler sizes up to age 12/13. They are looking to distribute these locally to any families who might be struggling to afford a new coat for their children. The coats are in great condition with many labelled brands. If you would like a coat, please contact the DFPZ zone leader Louisa Payne at louisa.payne@dorsetcouncil.gov.uk to organise going to look at them/collect one.

Dorset Community Action – Village Hall Census

Please see the attached email for information on the census of Rural England’s Village and Community Halls that is launching this week.

Funding and Grants  

Dorchester Market Car Boot Fund 2020

The Dorchester Market Car Boot Fund 2020 is currently open for applications and closes on the 30th April, decisions will be made and groups will be notified by the end of July and successful applicants will be invited to a celebration event in September to share news about their projects.

An application form and additional guidance can be found on the Dorset Council website at https://www.dorsetcouncil.gov.uk/your-community/support-for-voluntary-and-community-organisations/funding/dorchester-market-car-boot-fund.aspx or alternatively organisations can contact the Community Planning & Development Team at communityplanning@dorsetcouncil.gov.uk


Tracee Cossey: 22nd Mar 2020 03:23:00