Butterflies Newsletter 8th September 2020

Published on: 8th September 2020
By Tracee Cossey

Tuesday, 8th September 2020

*We meet every Wednesday at Dorchester Community Church, (next to the new Damers School, by the Great Field in Poundbury), Liscombe Street, Poundbury, Dorchester, Dorset, DT1 3DF: from 2-4pm.

Hello Everyone,

I’ve held off sending a newsletter until today because I wanted to be the bringer of good news ...

Butterflies has had a risk assessment done with the Council in order to meet in Borough Gardens, if the weather holds. We will still meet on Wednesdays, but from 2-3 (and ongoing if people want to stay a bit longer), unless the weather is inclement. The first Wednesday we will meet is next Wednesday, 16th September 2020. If you are not sure if it is on, you can contact us on 07591 110672 or 07792 637935 to check. We will convene at the Bandstand at 2pm and chairs and a table will be set up in the corner of Borough Gardens. Masks are optional.

Here is also the buddy list for Butterflies. If anyone needs any Covid-19 support outside of this group, you can also call a local number 01305 221022.

Rosa Adams 07737 234056 (Group Lead)

Dick Foad 07792 637935 (Chairman)

Roy Dean 07788 892908 - 01305 853442

Sandra Baldock 07943 937402 - 01305 757164

Stephen Weldon 07749 646852

Kris Jellett 07871 263070

Viv Steer 07742 877559 - 01305 262715

Marianne Currie 07854 841516

Lynton Burse 07890 728556

Shaun Wright 07792 471666

Tracee Cossey 07591 110672 (I will get that other phone fixed….)

Everyone take care and remain as well as you can.

Best wishes,

Email: traceecossey@gmail.com
Tel: 07591 100672

Our Meetings

***Our meetings are temporarily suspended***

At each meeting we always start with a nice chat and catch-up, along with tea/coffee and some lovely biscuits. At most of our meetings we either have one or two speakers (on a whole range of subjects, not always cancer related) or an activity of some sort such as Creative Writing.


  • Aromatherapy and Reflexology – every Wednesday of the month – Tracee Cossey, reflexologist and massage therapist
  • Regular 1-1 consultations with Mary Tassell, herbalist
  • Regular 1-1 meetings with counsellor Lynne O’Brien

Reflexology and Massage Therapy

Tracee Cossey attends weekly to give massage and reflexology to members. She has worked in a chemo unit in Bedfordshire for three years and has a degree in Complementary Therapies. You can see her website here: http://www.ametrineholistics.net – to book on for the day, there is a first-come, first served basis sheet on the table where we meet where you can sign to say what you’d like.


We have a trained counsellor who joins us, who comes to Butterflies on a Wednesday afternoon. Sessions are 1hr and usually last for at least 6 weeks. Lynne O’Brien is charging a reduced rate of £25p.h and funding is available if you need help meeting the cost - please speak to Rosa or Dick. To book a session, ring Lynne 07580 092388 You can view her website at: http://www.dragonfly-counselling.co.uk/


Herbalist Mary Tassell attends regularly to do 1:1 consultations for specific queries.

Mary has been working as a qualified herbalist for 23 years and is experienced in working with cancer patients.
For more information please visit Mary’s website at: http://www.tassell.net/

Julia and Roy from About Face regularly attend our meetings to support people with head and neck cancer.


Have a look at the books in our library, which are held on the tables in the Community Church, they will be put out for us every week to view. They are free for anyone to borrow but please let me know so I can mark it as out on loan. We aim to provide as many books as possible covering the wide spectrum of cancer, from Macmillan information booklets, self-help books and nutrition, to “my story” etc. If you’ve got a book you’d like to donate to our library then please feel free – we’d greatly appreciate it.


Remember, as always, you're welcome to come and go as you wish and you don't have to join in any of the activities if they don't interest you. You may just want to come for a chat or one of our therapies. You may want to bring a friend or member of the family with you.



Next Meeting:

Wednesday, 16th September  ­- – In Borough Gardens, by the bandstand from 2pm.

Successive Meetings  - Ongoing as above as long as the weather permits. If you are unsure if going ahead please call 07591 110672 or 07792 637935.

Do feel free to visit our website: www.butterfliescancersupport.co.uk

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About Face run a monthly support group. Their next meeting will be held on: - We will keep you posted when a new date is available.

At 7pm until 9pm

(arriving from 6.45 onwards)

In the downstairs sitting room

“The support group meetings will be held on the FIRST THURSDAY OF THE MONTH at the About Face house. Initially, the group will be led by Muriel Hall, Ann Copland and Shaun Wright. We want to use the downstairs lounge and kitchen as we are aware the stairs can be problematic for some.

Please can you let Jane know if you are likely to attend by return email or phone. Email Jane: contact@about-face.info or you can text/ring her mobile on 07966 905595.

*For more information on local events, please see the end of the newsletter.


Carers’ lead at RMHC (Royal Manor Health Care), Portland A new carers’ lead for cancer support is available at RMHC Portland. The lead, Sheri Smith, is introduced to carers who are caring for relatives/loved ones. They do not have to live with them but if they are caring for their needs on a regular basis, they can register with Royal Manor Health Care, so they can receive support. Also, they can be given a signed consent to access medical records if necessary. RMHC then registers them with Social Services if they have no online facility.

Social Services contact carers to assess their needs and requirements. They are then offered support to both carer and patient, and give advice on other services available, including a local Carers group that meet once a month. This is not something carers HAVE to take up but it’s just nice to know it’s there if they need it. There are also Carer Packs at both RMHC’s surgeries with the information if referred to Sheri. She will then make contact and introduce herself.

SCARS - Stalbridge Cancer & Recovery Support meets last Friday of the month 2-4pm at The Hub, Station Road, Stalbridge. www.scarscancersupport.co.uk Email: contact.scars@gmail.com Tracy White 01963 548342. They also operate a Closed Facebook Page called SCARS. Tracy says that if anyone wishes to join they would be welcome. It is a confidential, member’s only group and she will authorise you to be added.

The Grove Hotel in Bournemouth If you, or anyone you know, would like a break in a safe environment with medical staff on hand and near the sea then please tell them about this brilliant hotel. Rosa has stayed there a couple of times and loved it! www.thegrovebournemouth.co.uk

Shine – cancer support for younger adults

Shine exists exclusively to support adults in their 20s, 30s and 40s who have experienced a cancer diagnosis. There is never a good time to have cancer, but we know that younger adults face different issues than their older or younger counterparts - and that many of these are not dealt with by traditional cancer support charities and services. www.shinecancersupport.org

There is a new way to contact the emergency services, in addition to calling them. It is now possible to send a text message to 999 in case of an emergency. This service can be particularly useful for when mobile signal is too poor to support a phone call or if the situation means you're unable to speak to an operator. However, in order to be able to use this service you need to register your mobile phone. To do this online, go to:


OR you can register using SMS

To register using SMS text messages you must:

1. Send the word 'register' in an SMS message to 999

2. You will then receive SMS messages about the service

3. When you have read these SMS messages reply by sending 'yes' in an SMS message to 999

4. You will receive a SMS message telling you that your mobile phone is registered or if there is a problem with your registration

Red Cross SUPPORT AT HOME service

Have you heard of this? They provide help for people coming out of hospital which could well be one of us or someone we know.http://www.redcross.org.uk/What-we-do/Health-and-social-care/Independent-living/Support-at-home

Live Better With Cancer is a very useful website with lots of products and ideas to make your life easier livebetterwith.com/

http://www.creativity4wellbeing.com is a free art resource site “to encourage creativity in the community and purposeful activity for health and wellbeing”.

The Macmillan Citizens Advice Service provides advice on Welfare Benefit, Debt, Housing & Employment issues for people in Dorset affected by cancer. They offer advice for people affected by Cancer in Dorset. The service can provide a home visiting service and has part time advisers based in the Citizens Advice Bureaux in Dorchester, Sherborne, Weymouth & Wimborne. They also hold a drop in outreach service at Dorset County Hospital Williams Avenue Dorchester DT1 2JY on a Wednesday morning between 10 -12.

Telephone Mags on 08454 9000 42 Mon-Fri 10 – 3

Email: macmillan@dorchester.cabnet.org.uk

Penny Brohn UK run a range of courses, groups and individual therapies designed to help you feel better and live better with cancer, its treatments and side effects.

Whether it’s learning about healthy food, coping with treatment side effects, or getting to grips with the emotional impact of cancer, we can help you find what you need right now. https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk/

BLEEPS AT FORTUNESWELL OUTPATIENTS DCH. Did you know that bleeps are now available to borrow at reception if you have to wait for test results, meds etc so you can go and have a break, relax at the coffee bar or restaurant? Do ask if this would help you and your family.

South West Fishing for Life (SWFFL) - A quiet time to reflect and learn a new hobby. South West Fishing for Life is a fly-fishing organisation for people all with one thing in common - breast cancer. It has been proven that the gentle casting movement helps to build up muscle and tissue around the chest area. Also it is very beneficial to people's wellbeing, out in the fresh air at beautiful locations by water, and building new friendships with likeminded people. We call the monthly session a special ME time!

Qualified coaches teach members to fly fish, this is all free and we loan the members the equipment. If you would like to go along all you need to do is ring or email the Lead coach Roger hoot1@live.co.uk  01308 458379   or Gillian the secretary/founder of SWFFL 01398 371244   holworthyfarm@aol.com

Please do look at our website www.southwestfishingforlife.org.uk  or email Gillian  holworthyfarm@aol.com 01398 371244

We look forward to meeting you.

Other local cross-cancer support groups with whom we have close links:

Purbeck Workshop – FREE creative escapes for those touched by cancer – meets most weekdays in Wool. Lots of different creative activities to try with new ones added each month. To sign up for their monthly newsletter or for further details:www.purbeckworkshop.org

C-Siders, Weymouth & Portland cancer support group, meets on 1st and 3rd Monday of the month, 7.30-9pm at the Wyke Smugglers Pub, Portland Road, Weymouth. Have a look on their website for a list of activities. Contact: Peter Meacham


The Living Tree meets every Friday at the Friends House in Bridport at 2pm. They have far too many FREE activities for me to list, so please see their website:


Forum Otters Cancer Support meets every second Thursday of the month from 2-4pm in the Woodhouse Memorial Gardens Pavilion in Blandford Forum, they can be contacted on 07561 114644.

Tessa Murphy from Brain Tumour Support has sent through some useful information regarding disabled passes. (The first one looks good for not always having to carry proof of benefits receipt to confirm disability).

  • National Disabled Identification Card:


  • Merlin Pass – Disabled persons


  • And finally, a similar idea for cinemas:


The Anti-cancer Club: It’s about Life. – You can sign up to the weekly newsletter here (or for more info):


Dorset Cancer Care Foundation
Dorset Cancer Care Foundation (tel: 07593 890879, email info@dccf.co.uk) is helpful for anyone struggling financially due to cancer, they may be able to provide financial assistance.

Types of support DCCF provide include:

Transport and parking costs for treatment
Overnight accommodation during treatment
Household modifications (needed due to illness)
Days out for patients and their families
Domestic help (needed due to illness)
Respite holidays for patients
Specialist buggy for a child with cancer
Cost of child care whilst at appointments
Wigs and prosthetics
Other financial hardships.


DCCF also support Dorset-based cancer organisations for small research projects, local hospice meters and chairs, surgical bras for a hospice etc


For more details their website is http://www.dccf.co.uk


Information below supplied by Emma Scott, Community Development Officer, Dorchester Town Council.


Activities and events

What’s On – in and around West Dorset area

Tourist Information staff have collated a list of activities taking place around West Dorset – see attached.

Heritage Open Day 2020 (13 September)

Dorchester will celebrate Heritage Open Day with a range of online activities showcasing 6,000 years of history!
There will be virtual tours, information displays and images of some of Dorchester's heritage destinations.
The day will start and end with Live Stream via KeeP 106, including discussions about historic Dorchester - A little town with a big story!
The event will go live from the website at 10am on Sunday, 13th September - Visit: http://lovedorch.com/HOD

There will also be FREE guided tours on the day, starting from the town pump, with readings from the works of Thomas Hardy and William Barnes, performed by the New Hardy Players. Booking essential at https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/out-dor-heritage-open-day-guided-walking-tours-tickets-117888239899 or via Facebook: Dorchester Heritage

Befriending and support

Home library service

The Royal Voluntary Service are still providing their much-loved Home Library Service in Dorchester, with a temporary non-contact Doorstep Delivery Service now in place.

If you would like to find out more please contact Maria Jacobson, Service Manager, on 01305 236666, mobile: 07786 635154 or email maria.jacobson@royalvoluntaryservice.org.uk.


Age UK North, South & West Dorset

Age UK NSWD continue to run their free telephone befriending service.

As you can imagine, this has been a lifeline for many older people during lockdown and continues to offer comfort and help to combat loneliness.

The service is run by their army of dedicated volunteers who give up their time to make regular wellbeing checks on local older people.

The service can be accessed by calling them on 01305 269444 or emailing them at: enquiries@ageuknswd.org.uk

Age UK NSWD also has a new fully holistic service to get older people online. This includes procurement and set-up of equipment, training and ongoing support.

Please note, this is a paid-for service.

As they are a small independent charity if any local business would like to donate computer/smart equipment to get the most vulnerable set-up – that would be great – please contact them directly using the details above.


Digital Champions

Do you, or someone you know want some digital support and advice – no problem too small!

Digital Champions can help you get online, access services, sort out your online shopping, and more.

This free service is provided by Dorset Council and can be accessed by going to: https://www.dorsetcouncil.gov.uk/business-consumers-licences/superfast-dorset/getting-online.aspx

Alternatively you can call the Dorset Digital Hotline with an IT question on 01305 221000 (select option 2) weekdays (excluding Bank Holidays) from 10am to 12noon.

Priority Supermarket slots for vulnerable residents

Are you self-isolating due to exposure to Covid-19, potential exposure to Covid-19 or have a pre-existing health condition? Dorset Council have been allocated 1000 priority slots with Tesco and 1000 priority slots with Iceland to support vulnerable residents who do not have family, friends or a support network that can help.

For information go to:


Dorset Open Door - A new bereavement service for

Dorset Open Door is a new partnership between charities, health and care organisations who can help you to find the best bereavement support – including emotional support from charities, faith groups and healthcare organisations and practical support from local authorities and funeral directors.

For more information, call 01305 361 361 or email on dhc.dorsetopendoor@nhs.net The service is open Monday to Friday from 9.30am to 4.30pm.

Mental Health & wellbeing

Free counselling support from the Dorchester Trust for Counselling and Psychotherapy

The DTCP are still offering their free listening service where anyone can speak on the phone for 50 minutes to a trained professional, or register for a (free) 6 week course of support if you are a key worker - see attached information for how to sign up.

World Suicide Prevention Day

World Suicide Prevention Day is on 10th Sept. You can access information from this link: World Suicide Prevention Day with a helpful 20 min training video about suicide prevention here


Connection is a 24/7 phone helpline for people of all ages in Dorset who are experiencing mental health issues and need support.

Call 111 and select ‘mental health’ or dial 0300 1235440 to access support as part of the Dorset Crisis Response Service.

Connection also offers assessments for adults outside CMHT operating hours. 


Steps2Wellbeing want to encourage referrals to their therapy service during this difficult time. As an NHS mental health provider for adults, they have seen a reduction in their referral levels at a time that stress, anxiety and depression are likely to be at their most severe. They are hoping to encourage referrals, ideally before people start to suffer more.

Check out their website for further information about the service, or to refer yourself. 

Dorset Mind Mental Health Workshops

Dorset Mind are running a programme of free online courses – but there are only 50 places available for each.

Topics covered in this series include: Anxiety, Depression, Stress, Grief and Loss, Loneliness and Isolation & Anger.

To book a place go to: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/o/dorset-mind-16061932967

Dorset Mind – Wellbeing Check-in

The service is designed for young people aged 11-25 who would like neutral and confidential support for mild to moderate mental health needs.  Through this service we provide weekly ‘check-ins’ over zoom or over the phone with a trained volunteer.

The idea of this service is not for the volunteers to give the young people advice or counselling, but to be a person external to the situations they are experiencing who can provide them with emotional support and help find and reach their own goals and solutions.

Each participant will be offered a session of up to 60 minutes once a week for a maximum of 6 months.

For more information, and to register for support, go to: https://dorsetmindyourhead.co.uk/services/wellbeing-checkin



Working together to improve mental health support provided in our community – Dorset’s Mental Health Integrated Community Care Project

This survey, which closes on Friday 9 October, is open to anyone over 16 with experience of Dorset’s primary and community mental health services and is available in on-line, paper and easy read versions.  All of these can be accessed online here

People can also request a paper or easy read version of the survey by calling 01202 541588 or e-mailing communications@dorsetccg.nhs.uk.

Or if you would like to share your experiences on the telephone with the Dorset Mental Health Forum, you can call them on: 01305 257 172.


A cross-party Parliamentary group has been set up to enable everyone to have a say in how they would like the Covid recovery to look. Do take a look and share your ideas.

Reset is a chance for your voice to be heard, so that you can help shape a fairer, greener, future for the UK. Supported by a group of MPs from across the political spectrum, Reset aims to seize this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for all of us to listen, reflect, plan and act together to bring about real and lasting change. To complete the survey go to : https://reset-uk.org/

Redevelopment of Cornhill

Dorchester Town Council are working with design company Feria Urbanism on a redevelopment project at Cornhill.

There is a public consultation day planned at the site on 26th September and they would love to hear your views.

More details can be found on the attached e-flyer and by following this link: https://dorchester-cornhill.com/get-involved

Please feel free to share widely.


Celebrating 6000 years - Dorchester’ Heritage and Tourism Community consultation on new tourism strategy 

The Dorchester Joint Heritage Committee is inviting Dorchester residents and visitors to comment on its Heritage Tourism Strategy.

Dorchester benefits from over 6000 years of history and is seeing significant investment in heritage assets in the north of the town.

Yet the town’s visitor offer remains hidden from prospective visitors, and its heritage has not attracted visitors for the economic benefit of the town.

As well as addressing the lack of awareness of the towns offer amongst visitors to the area, the strategy proposes developing new quality visitor experiences, working with the heritage attractions and tourism businesses in the town. To take part please see the strategy and consultation documents on the Heritage Tourism page of the Dorchester Town Council website at:




Volunteer wanted!

Relate Dorset & South Wiltshire are looking for a Volunteer Treasurer for the Board of Trustees

If you are interested in this role, please contact the Centre Manager by email sian.merriott@relatedorset.org.uk

Carer Advisor Jobs

Carer Support Dorset are looking for 2 new carer advisors. Deadline Tuesday 8 September 5pm. For more details including how to apply, see attachment.


Culture Recovery Fund

The Government have announced funding streams that will available through the Culture Recovery Fund, a £1.5 billion fund to support the UK’s performing arts, heritage sites, independent cinemas, music venues and museums. For more information go to: https://www.gov.uk/guidance/funding-available-through-the-culture-recovery-fund

Community Matters

Both the Dorchester Waitrose and Poundbury Waitrose would love to hear from your community group if you are in need of some funding over the next few months.

The Community Matters funding pot has continued throughout Covid-19 providing grants of up to £330. Pop into either store for an application form.


Tracee Cossey: 8th Sep 2020 10:35:00