Butterflies Newsletter 15th March 2019

Published on: 18th March 2019
By Tracee Cossey

Friday, 15th March 2019

We now meet every Wednesday at Dorchester Community Church, (next to the new Damers School), Liscombe Street, Poundbury, Dorchester, Dorset, DT1 3DF: from 2-4pm.

Hello Everyone,

Well, our ‘haul’ from Poundland has gone down very well – we managed to fill the store with the goodies. Thanks very much to those who helped. We shall be getting together on 28th March to do an inventory of all of the goodies so we know exactly what we’ve got.

My trips away have been great fun. A wedding incorporating ‘Baby Shark’ for all the kiddies (I guess that’s what you expect if you are the daughter of a vicar and invite near enough the whole congregation– the place was thriving and everyone was involved in some way), my daughter managed to sidle up to the ‘Princess’ Sarah and grab her hand during the ceremony. Next stop, will be a trip to Leeds for an event in April followed by Easter in Sunderland visiting friends.

This week, Wednesday, 20th March, we have Maria Morris with Easy Ways to get your Daily D.O.S.E of Happiness ~ using all your senses and the healing power of nature. Unfortunately our speaker for the 27th March the following week, has had to cancel, so we will just have a general chit-chat and catch up session.

Until next time.


Regards Tracee

07591 110672/  07766 576639 / 01305 753478


Our Meetings

At each meeting we always start with a good old chat and catch-up, along with tea/coffee and some lovely biscuits. At most of our meetings we either have one or two speakers (on a whole range of subjects, not always cancer related) or an activity of some sort such as Creative Writing.


  • Aromatherapy and Reflexology with Tracee – every Wednesday of the month.

Julia and Roy from About Face regularly attend our meetings to support people with head and neck cancer.

Have a look at the books in our library, which are held on the tables in the Community Church, they will be put out for us every week to view. They are free for anyone to borrow but please let me know so I can mark it as out on loan. We aim to provide as many books as possible covering the wide spectrum of cancer, from Macmillan information booklets, self-help books and nutrition, to “my story” etc. If you’ve got a book you’d like to donate to our library then please feel free – we’d greatly appreciate it.

Remember, as always, you're welcome to come and go as you wish and you don't have to join in any of the activities if they don't interest you. You may just want to come for a chat or one of our therapies. You may want to bring a friend or member of the family with you.

Free Therapies:         Reflexology and Massage with Tracee.

Next Meeting:

Wednesday, 20th March 2019 - Maria Morris-  Easy Ways to get your Daily D.O.S.E of Happiness ~ using all your senses and the healing power of nature

Successive Meetings:

Wednesday, 27th March 2019  - General chat session
Wednesday, 3rd April 2019 - Sarah Cooper - Creative Writing; from 2:15pm

THIS MONTH’S COFFEE MORNING IS SATURDAY, 30th MARCH 2019, 11-1, HENDOVER’S CAFÉ, WEYMOUTH ROAD, DORCHESTER (The café with the green chairs outside on the way to Brewery Square, near the Chemist’s), our Chair, Dick Foad and Tracee Cossey will be running the next coffee morning.

Visit our website: www.butterfliescancersupport.co.uk

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About Face run a monthly support group. Their next meeting will be held on:

Thursday 5th April 2019

At 7pm until 9pm

(arriving from 6.45 onwards)

In the downstairs sitting room

“The support group meetings will be held on the FIRST THURSDAY OF THE MONTH at the About Face house. Initially the group will be led by Muriel Hall, Ann Copland and Shaun Wright. We want to use the downstairs lounge and kitchen as we are aware the stairs can be problematic for some.

Please can you let Jane know if you are likely to attend by return email or phone. Email Jane: contact@about-face.info or you can text/ring her mobile on 07966 905595

From Brain Tumour Support

Unfortunately, the April group of Brain Tumour Support has been cancelled as unfortunately, none of the volunteers are available. However, if a few of you want to meet as usual as a social I am sure we can arrange to have the room and the usual tea and coffee. Please let me know if you would like this. I am really sorry to have to cancel in April especially when we didn’t have a group last month.

Tessa, (Brain Tumour Support Worker)

22nd – 24th March 2019 - The Weekend 2019 - a chance to relax and spend time with others affected by brain tumours

The draft programme for Brain Tumour Support’s flagship event, The Weekend, is now available. Packed with workshops, presentations and opportunities for you to meet some of the UK's top specialists in brain tumour treatment and diagnosis, this event is your chance to spend some quality time with others who understand what you are going through. Our venue, Whittlebury Hall, has fantastic grounds and a beautiful spa, and our programme gives you plenty of opportunities to enjoy some free time. 

The price for the whole weekend, from Friday lunchtime to Sunday lunchtime and including all activities, accommodation, and meals with a gala dinner on Saturday evening, is £190 per person or £330 per couple. For transport options, childcare arrangements and other information, please visit our website.

To book, please email - weekend2019@braintumoursupport.co.uk

Cancer Festival in Surrey

This Cancer Festival is taking place in Dunsfold, Surrey, on the weekend of 5-7th July 2019. 
It is weekend of talks, workshops, music and play, which brings together world renowned health professionals, researchers, wellbeing experts and those living well with and beyond cancer all set on a beautiful farm in the Surrey countryside. Full details can be found on their website   www.trewfields.com.    

Information from Anna Lisa Castelino at C-Siders

Cancer courses via Macmillan

Butterflies members,and volunteers might be interested in attending one of the courses being run in the South West, please see the attached prospectus.  All courses are free, please enquire if you would be entitled to travel expenses.

The course titles are: Managing Difficult Conversations, Supporting Others Through Loss and Bereavement and Living Well, With and After Cancer. The dates commence from 28th March through to 22nd October

To apply for any of the courses please contact swmidslearning@macmillan.org.uk directly.

Information and events from Emma Scott, Community Development Officer, Dorchester Town Council

Dorchester Litter Pick – Saturday 30th March

On Saturday 30th March Litter Free Dorset will be holding a ‘Great British Spring Clean’ in Dorchester to support the Plastic Free Dorchester campaign (poster attached).

This year’s campaign will not only see tonnes of litter being removed from the environment on our doorstep, it also aims to rescue thousands of the plastic bottles and aluminium drinks cans that are simply thrown on the ground but could, very easily, be recycled. Using the ‘three bags full’ approach, volunteers will be asked to separate the litter they pick into three bags: one for plastic bottles; one for aluminium cans and a third for the rest of the rubbish.

Please meet at the bandstand in Borough Gardens at 10am on Saturday 30th March.

If you would like to get involved, please contact Litter Free Dorset: litterfreedorset@dorsetcc.gov.uk


  • Countryman Club

Rylands Farm, near Sherborne, are starting a Countryman Club on a Tuesday afternoon and are able to offer transport and collect men from Dorchester to participate.

To find out more, go to www.futureroots.net/who-we-help/the-countrymens-club or contact them directly on 01963 210703

Thinking of standing as a local councillor for the new Dorset Council in 2019?

The new Dorset Council will be holding its elections in May 2019. 

Information for anyone interested in standing for election can be found on the dorsetforyou website.

Nomination papers to stand for election must be submitted by 4pm on 3 April 2019. 

Interested individuals are also welcome to contact the council’s Democratic Services Team at councillorservices@dorset.gov.uk or Tel: 01305 252394 who will be able to:

  • offer non –political advice
  • suggest committee meetings that they might like to attend
  • arrange meetings with serving councillors


  • Dorchester Car Boot Fund

The Dorchester Car Boot Fund is open for applications until March 31st for grants ranging from £100-£3000.

Projects will be notified about the outcome of their grant by the end of June 2019.

Groups making an application must be based, or offering services, within a 6.67 miles of the Dorchester Market.

For full guidance and to download an application form follow this link:


 Lord-Lieutenant's Fund for Young and Talented

Closing - noon on 20th March 2019            

Grants of up to £1,000 are now available for local young people (14-21) with an exceptional sporting talent.

Support will be available for (not an exhaustive list): kit/clothing costs, competition fees, coaching, travel costs and accommodation.

DCF manages the fund on behalf of the Lord-Lieutenant of Dorset Mr Angus Campbell (pictured above with our Chief Executive Jon Yates, our Ambassador Jennifer Coombs and two supported sport stars Jacob Peters and Jasmine McCrea at a fundraising event for the fund). 

Applicants must have an exceptional sporting talent which has been recognised or acknowledged.

To apply or for more details, please click here.

 “How to get funding for your great idea” from Dorset Community Action

Joanna Keats will be running  an Easy Steps training course on “How to get funding for your great idea” on 28th March at The Little Keep in Dorchester from 6pm-8pm. For more information & to book onto the course, visit the Dorset Community Action website;


Handling Change (a local Health, Safety and Wellbeing organisation) are delighted to offer an accredited Adult Mental Health First Aid Champions course to our local community on Thursday 2nd May 09:00-16:00 in The Quiet Space Poundbury, supported by The Duchy of Cornwall.

All spaces will be allocated on a first come/first served basis - £78 p/person including materials (that’s over 60% discount on the RRP).  

This is a not for profit event as all profits will be going to Dorset MIND.  

A chance to learn how to recognise the signs and symptoms of mental ill health, gain the skills and confidence to guide others towards the right support and understand how you can support positive wellbeing and reduce the stigma in the world around you.  

For more information or to register your interest in the event, please email support@handling-change.co.uk



Carers’ lead at RMHC (Royal Manor Health Care), Portland A new carers’ lead for cancer support is available at RMHC Portland. The lead, Sheri Smith, is introduced to carers who are caring for relatives/loved ones. They do not have to live with them but if they are caring for their needs on a regular basis, they can register with Royal Manor Health Care, so they can receive support. Also, they can be given a signed consent to access medical records if necessary. RMHC then registers them with Social Services if they have no online facility.

Social Services contact carers to assess their needs and requirements. They are then offered support to both carer and patient, and give advice on other services available, including a local Carers group that meet once a month. This is not something carers HAVE to take up but its just nice to know it’s there if they need it. There are also Carer Packs at both RMHC’s surgeries with the information if referred to Sheri. She will then make contact and introduce herself.

SCARS - Stalbridge Cancer & Recovery Support meets last Friday of the month 2-4pm at The Hub, Station Road, Stalbridge. www.scarscancersupport.co.uk Email: contact.scars@gmail.com Tracy White 01963 548342. They also operate a Closed Facebook Page called SCARS. Tracy says that if anyone wishes to join they would be welcome. It is a confidential, member’s only group and she will authorise you to be added.

The Grove Hotel in Bournemouth If you, or anyone you know, would like a break in a safe environment with medical staff on hand and near the sea then please tell them about this brilliant hotel. Rosa has stayed there a couple of times and loved it! www.thegrovebournemouth.co.uk

Shine – cancer support for younger adults

Shine exists exclusively to support adults in their 20s, 30s and 40s who have experienced a cancer diagnosis. There is never a good time to have cancer, but we know that younger adults face different issues than their older or younger counterparts - and that many of these are not dealt with by traditional cancer support charities and services. www.shinecancersupport.org

There is a new way to contact the emergency services, in addition to calling them. It is now possible to send a text message to 999 in case of an emergency. This service can be particularly useful for when mobile signal is too poor to support a phone call or if the situation means you're unable to speak to an operator. However, in order to be able to use this service you need to register your mobile phone. To do this online, go to:


OR you can register using SMS

To register using SMS text messages you must:

1. Send the word 'register' in an SMS message to 999

2. You will then receive SMS messages about the service

3. When you have read these SMS messages reply by sending 'yes' in an SMS message to 999

4. You will receive a SMS message telling you that your mobile phone is registered or if there is a problem with your registration


Red Cross SUPPORT AT HOME service

Have you heard of this? They provide help for people coming out of hospital which could well be one of us or someone we know.http://www.redcross.org.uk/What-we-do/Health-and-social-care/Independent-living/Support-at-home


Live Better With Cancer is a very useful website with lots of products and ideas to make your life easier livebetterwith.com/


http://www.creativity4wellbeing.com is a free art resource site “to encourage creativity in the community and purposeful activity for health and wellbeing”.


The Macmillan Citizens Advice Service provides advice on Welfare Benefit, Debt, Housing & Employment issues for people in Dorset affected by cancer. They offer advice for people affected by Cancer in Dorset. The service can provide a home visiting service and has part time advisers based in the Citizens Advice Bureaux in Dorchester, Sherborne, Weymouth & Wimborne. They also hold a drop in outreach service at Dorset County Hospital Williams Avenue Dorchester DT1 2JY on a Wednesday morning between 10 -12.

Telephone Mags on 08454 9000 42 Mon-Fri 10 – 3

Email: macmillan@dorchester.cabnet.org.uk

Penny Brohn UK run a range of courses, groups and individual therapies designed to help you feel better and live better with cancer, its treatments and side effects.

Whether it’s learning about healthy food, coping with treatment side effects, or getting to grips with the emotional impact of cancer, we can help you find what you need right now. https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk/

BLEEPS AT FORTUNESWELL OUTPATIENTS DCH. Did you know that bleeps are now available to borrow at reception if you have to wait for test results, meds etc so you can go and have a break, relax at the coffee bar or restaurant? Do ask if this would help you and your family.

Something different: SOUTH WEST FISHING FOR LIFE (SWFFL) is an organisation which provides fly fishing sessions for women with breast cancer. The Dorset group meets at The Wrackleford Estate fishery Dorchester, Dorset, DT2 9SN by kind permission of Mr and Mrs Pope. If you would like to go along for a chat and to see what they have to offer ring Gillian, secretary, 01398 371244 or Lead coach Clive 01202 699864.
A new SWFFL group has started - the Tolpuddle group who meet the 1st Thursday of the month at Tolpuddle, Dorchester, Dorset DT2 7H. If you would like to go along and meet the group please contact Lead coach Sally-pizii@btinternet.com, Peter-mullinsp44@gmail.com, or ring Gillian 01398 371244

Other local cross-cancer support groups with whom we have close links:

Purbeck Workshop – FREE creative escapes for those touched by cancer – meets most weekdays in Wool. Lots of different creative activities to try with new ones added each month. To sign up for their monthly newsletter or for further details:www.purbeckworkshop.org

C-Siders, Weymouth & Portland cancer support group, meets on 1st and 3rd Monday of the month, 7.30-9pm at the Wyke Smugglers Pub, Portland Road, Weymouth. Have a look on their website for a list of activities. Contact: Peter Meacham


The Living Tree meets every Friday at the Friends House in Bridport at 2pm. They have far too many FREE activities for me to list, so please see their website:


Tessa Murphy from Brain Tumour Support has sent through some useful information regarding disabled passes. (The first one looks good for not always having to carry proof of benefits receipt to confirm disability).

  • National Disabled Identification Card:


  • Merlin Pass – Disabled persons


  • And finally, a similar idea for cinemas:


The Anti-cancer Club: It’s about Life. – You can sign up to the weekly newsletter here (or for more info):


Dorset Cancer Care Foundation

Dick Foad, our Chair, has been speaking with Dorset Cancer Care Foundation (tel: 07593 890879, email info@dccf.co.uk) and would like to mention that if anyone is struggling financially due to cancer, they may be able to provide financial assistance.

Types of support DCCF provide include:

Transport and parking costs for treatment
Overnight accommodation during treatment
Household modifications (needed due to illness)
Days out for patients and their families
Domestic help (needed due to illness)
Respite holidays for patients
Specialist buggy or a child with cancer
Cost of child care whilst at appointments
Wigs and prosthetics
Other financial hardships.

DCCF also support Dorset-based cancer organisations for small research projects, local hospice meters and chairs, surgical bras for a hospice etc

For more details their website is http://www.dccf.co.uk



Tracee Cossey: 18th Mar 2019 03:46:00