Butterflies Newsletter 15th April 2019

Published on: 16th April 2019
By Tracee Cossey

Monday, 15th April 2019

We now meet every Wednesday at Dorchester Community Church, (next to the new Damers School), Liscombe Street, Poundbury, Dorchester, Dorset, DT1 3DF: from 2-4pm.

Hello Everyone,

Well what a cold weekend it was up north in Leeds for me, very interesting though, I was at a work seminar and learned all about the fun to be had on cruise ships. Having never been on one I was stunned by how much was on board, including a rollercoaster that is coming on one, an exercise bike suspended over the sea (eek), an Imax 3D Cinema and cocktail bars galore. I’m thinking for my next holiday I might well book a cruise. They even had a babysitting service. Disneyland Paris is up there competing for top place though.

Butterflies this week is a chat and catch-up session and I’ll be on hand to offer massages and reflexology. Next week it’s Sophie from Tropic Sun with tips and tricks on skin care.

Hopefully those of the group who’ve been ill are beginning to turn a corner and things are improving following ops, appointments and hospitalisations. There have been a few of you lately.

Do feel free to invite any of your friends and family to the group – we are always very welcoming and it’s nice to see new faces too.

Regards Tracee

07591 110672/  07766 576639 / 01305 753478


Our Meetings

At each meeting we always start with a good old chat and catch-up, along with tea/coffee and some lovely biscuits. At most of our meetings we either have one or two speakers (on a whole range of subjects, not always cancer related) or an activity of some sort such as Creative Writing.


  • Aromatherapy and Reflexology with Tracee – every Wednesday of the month.

Julia and Roy from About Face regularly attend our meetings to support people with head and neck cancer.

Have a look at the books in our library, which are held on the tables in the Community Church, they will be put out for us every week to view. They are free for anyone to borrow but please let me know so I can mark it as out on loan. We aim to provide as many books as possible covering the wide spectrum of cancer, from Macmillan information booklets, self-help books and nutrition, to “my story” etc. If you’ve got a book you’d like to donate to our library then please feel free – we’d greatly appreciate it.

Remember, as always, you're welcome to come and go as you wish and you don't have to join in any of the activities if they don't interest you. You may just want to come for a chat or one of our therapies. You may want to bring a friend or member of the family with you.

Free Therapies:         Reflexology and Massage with Tracee.

Next Meeting:

Wednesday, 17th April 2019 – Chat & catch-up session

Successive Meetings:

Wednesday, 24th April 2019 – Sophie from Tropic Sun

Wednesday, 1st May 2019 – Sarah Cooper, Creative Writing from 2:15pm

THIS MONTH’S COFFEE MORNING IS SATURDAY, 27th APRIL 2019, 11-1, HENDOVER’S CAFÉ, WEYMOUTH ROAD, DORCHESTER (The café with the green chairs outside on the way to Brewery Square, near the Chemist’s), our Chair, Dick Foad and Tracee Cossey will be running the next coffee morning.

Visit our website: www.butterfliescancersupport.co.uk

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About Face run a monthly support group. Their next meeting will be held on:

Thursday 2nd May 2019

At 7pm until 9pm

(arriving from 6.45 onwards)

In the downstairs sitting room

“The support group meetings will be held on the FIRST THURSDAY OF THE MONTH at the About Face house. Initially the group will be led by Muriel Hall, Ann Copland and Shaun Wright. We want to use the downstairs lounge and kitchen as we are aware the stairs can be problematic for some.

Please can you let Jane know if you are likely to attend by return email or phone. Email Jane: contact@about-face.info or you can text/ring her mobile on 07966 905595.

Cancer Festival in Surrey

This Cancer Festival is taking place in Dunsfold, Surrey, on the weekend of 5-7th July 2019. 
It is weekend of talks, workshops, music and play, which brings together world renowned health professionals, researchers, wellbeing experts and those living well with and beyond cancer all set on a beautiful farm in the Surrey countryside. Full details can be found on their website   www.trewfields.com.    

Information from Anna Lisa Castelino at C-Siders

Cancer courses via Macmillan

Butterflies members,and volunteers might be interested in attending one of the courses being run in the South West, if you need the prospectus please contact me (Tracee).  All courses are free, please enquire if you would be entitled to travel expenses.

The course titles are: Managing Difficult Conversations, Supporting Others Through Loss and Bereavement and Living Well, With and After Cancer. The dates commence from 28th March through to 22nd October

To apply for any of the courses please contact swmidslearning@macmillan.org.uk directly.

Information and events from Emma Scott, Community Development Officer, Dorchester Town Council


  • Countryman Club

Rylands Farm, near Sherborne, are starting a Countryman Club on a Tuesday afternoon and are able to offer transport and collect men from Dorchester to participate.

To find out more, go to www.futureroots.net/who-we-help/the-countrymens-club or contact them directly on 01963 210703


Handling Change (a local Health, Safety and Wellbeing organisation) are delighted to offer an accredited Adult Mental Health First Aid Champions course to our local community on Thursday 2nd May 09:00-16:00 in The Quiet Space Poundbury, supported by The Duchy of Cornwall.

All spaces will be allocated on a first come/first served basis - £78 p/person including materials (that’s over 60% discount on the RRP).  

This is a not for profit event as all profits will be going to Dorset MIND.  

A chance to learn how to recognise the signs and symptoms of mental ill health, gain the skills and confidence to guide others towards the right support and understand how you can support positive wellbeing and reduce the stigma in the world around you.  

For more information or to register your interest in the event, please email support@handling-change.co.uk 



Carers’ lead at RMHC (Royal Manor Health Care), Portland A new carers’ lead for cancer support is available at RMHC Portland. The lead, Sheri Smith, is introduced to carers who are caring for relatives/loved ones. They do not have to live with them but if they are caring for their needs on a regular basis, they can register with Royal Manor Health Care, so they can receive support. Also, they can be given a signed consent to access medical records if necessary. RMHC then registers them with Social Services if they have no online facility.

Social Services contact carers to assess their needs and requirements. They are then offered support to both carer and patient, and give advice on other services available, including a local Carers group that meet once a month. This is not something carers HAVE to take up but its just nice to know it’s there if they need it. There are also Carer Packs at both RMHC’s surgeries with the information if referred to Sheri. She will then make contact and introduce herself.

SCARS - Stalbridge Cancer & Recovery Support meets last Friday of the month 2-4pm at The Hub, Station Road, Stalbridge. www.scarscancersupport.co.uk Email: contact.scars@gmail.com Tracy White 01963 548342. They also operate a Closed Facebook Page called SCARS. Tracy says that if anyone wishes to join they would be welcome. It is a confidential, member’s only group and she will authorise you to be added.

The Grove Hotel in Bournemouth If you, or anyone you know, would like a break in a safe environment with medical staff on hand and near the sea then please tell them about this brilliant hotel. Rosa has stayed there a couple of times and loved it! www.thegrovebournemouth.co.uk

Shine – cancer support for younger adults

Shine exists exclusively to support adults in their 20s, 30s and 40s who have experienced a cancer diagnosis. There is never a good time to have cancer, but we know that younger adults face different issues than their older or younger counterparts - and that many of these are not dealt with by traditional cancer support charities and services. www.shinecancersupport.org

There is a new way to contact the emergency services, in addition to calling them. It is now possible to send a text message to 999 in case of an emergency. This service can be particularly useful for when mobile signal is too poor to support a phone call or if the situation means you're unable to speak to an operator. However, in order to be able to use this service you need to register your mobile phone. To do this online, go to:


OR you can register using SMS

To register using SMS text messages you must:

1. Send the word 'register' in an SMS message to 999

2. You will then receive SMS messages about the service

3. When you have read these SMS messages reply by sending 'yes' in an SMS message to 999

4. You will receive a SMS message telling you that your mobile phone is registered or if there is a problem with your registration

Red Cross SUPPORT AT HOME service

Have you heard of this? They provide help for people coming out of hospital which could well be one of us or someone we know.http://www.redcross.org.uk/What-we-do/Health-and-social-care/Independent-living/Support-at-home

Live Better With Cancer is a very useful website with lots of products and ideas to make your life easier livebetterwith.com/

http://www.creativity4wellbeing.com is a free art resource site “to encourage creativity in the community and purposeful activity for health and wellbeing”.

The Macmillan Citizens Advice Service provides advice on Welfare Benefit, Debt, Housing & Employment issues for people in Dorset affected by cancer. They offer advice for people affected by Cancer in Dorset. The service can provide a home visiting service and has part time advisers based in the Citizens Advice Bureaux in Dorchester, Sherborne, Weymouth & Wimborne. They also hold a drop in outreach service at Dorset County Hospital Williams Avenue Dorchester DT1 2JY on a Wednesday morning between 10 -12.

Telephone Mags on 08454 9000 42 Mon-Fri 10 – 3

Email: macmillan@dorchester.cabnet.org.uk

Penny Brohn UK run a range of courses, groups and individual therapies designed to help you feel better and live better with cancer, its treatments and side effects.

Whether it’s learning about healthy food, coping with treatment side effects, or getting to grips with the emotional impact of cancer, we can help you find what you need right now. https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk/

BLEEPS AT FORTUNESWELL OUTPATIENTS DCH. Did you know that bleeps are now available to borrow at reception if you have to wait for test results, meds etc so you can go and have a break, relax at the coffee bar or restaurant? Do ask if this would help you and your family.

Something different: SOUTH WEST FISHING FOR LIFE (SWFFL) is an organisation which provides fly fishing sessions for women with breast cancer. The Dorset group meets at The Wrackleford Estate fishery Dorchester, Dorset, DT2 9SN by kind permission of Mr and Mrs Pope. If you would like to go along for a chat and to see what they have to offer ring Gillian, secretary, 01398 371244 or Lead coach Clive 01202 699864.
A new SWFFL group has started - the Tolpuddle group who meet the 1st Thursday of the month at Tolpuddle, Dorchester, Dorset DT2 7H. If you would like to go along and meet the group please contact Lead coach Sally-pizii@btinternet.com, Peter-mullinsp44@gmail.com, or ring Gillian 01398 371244

Other local cross-cancer support groups with whom we have close links:

Purbeck Workshop – FREE creative escapes for those touched by cancer – meets most weekdays in Wool. Lots of different creative activities to try with new ones added each month. To sign up for their monthly newsletter or for further details:www.purbeckworkshop.org

C-Siders, Weymouth & Portland cancer support group, meets on 1st and 3rd Monday of the month, 7.30-9pm at the Wyke Smugglers Pub, Portland Road, Weymouth. Have a look on their website for a list of activities. Contact: Peter Meacham


The Living Tree meets every Friday at the Friends House in Bridport at 2pm. They have far too many FREE activities for me to list, so please see their website:


Tessa Murphy from Brain Tumour Support has sent through some useful information regarding disabled passes. (The first one looks good for not always having to carry proof of benefits receipt to confirm disability).

  • National Disabled Identification Card:


  • Merlin Pass – Disabled persons


  • And finally, a similar idea for cinemas:


The Anti-cancer Club: It’s about Life. – You can sign up to the weekly newsletter here (or for more info):


Dorset Cancer Care Foundation

Dick Foad, our Chair, has been speaking with Dorset Cancer Care Foundation (tel: 07593 890879, email info@dccf.co.uk) and would like to mention that if anyone is struggling financially due to cancer, they may be able to provide financial assistance.

Types of support DCCF provide include:

Transport and parking costs for treatment
Overnight accommodation during treatment
Household modifications (needed due to illness)
Days out for patients and their families
Domestic help (needed due to illness)
Respite holidays for patients
Specialist buggy or a child with cancer
Cost of child care whilst at appointments
Wigs and prosthetics
Other financial hardships.

DCCF also support Dorset-based cancer organisations for small research projects, local hospice meters and chairs, surgical bras for a hospice etc

For more details their website is http://www.dccf.co.uk

Tracee Cossey: 16th Apr 2019 08:32:00


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Hello Everyone, It was lovely to get together for our summer meet-up at a member’s house in Winterbourne Steepleton. Please see below for our next trip details. MV Freedom The boat trip from Weymouth sadly had to be cancelled due to bad weather, but has been rebooked for 12th August. There are still a couple of places available, so if you’re interested please email Rosa - butterfliesdorchester@outlook.com Swanage Railway We are heading off on the steam train on Friday, 23rd August. We will meet at Norden at 11:00am for time to look around the shops before we board. If you’re interested please email Rosa - butterfliesdorchester@outlook.com

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Hello Everyone, Well, our trips have been going very well this summer. Our next outing is this Friday, 19th July onboard the MV Freedom boat at Weymouth. This will be followed promptly two weeks later (2nd August) by a second visit as we had a lot of people interested in this event. Later on in August, we’ll be going on the Swanage steam train too. Short and sweet this month from me, but more news on potential new outings very soon. Kind regards Tracee